Escaping Toxic Relationships
Not many know the true
definition of what a relationship is. Many think of it as an avenue of getting
laid while others think of it as a bond between two people who find each other
attractive. All these are just but wild guesses. Yes, they make some sense but
none of them get even close to the real definition of a relationship. A true
love relationship can only be defined by its characters. A true relationship is
one that is based on understanding, where none thinks of himself only, one that
has an automatic chemistry to it and above all one that is made of frequent
arguments and instant make-ups to each.
On the other hand, the
exact opposite to this is a toxic love relationship also known as an unhealthy
relationship. A ‘love doctor’ once defined toxic love relationships as bonds
between two needy individuals. In the long run, it ends up being a union
defined by parasitical behavior. Just like the normal parasitical relationships
in the animal world, there is a victim and a parasite in these relationships;
each with his or her own degree of ‘sickness’. In some cases, the situation is
quit mild that one can hardly notice that the relationship is toxic. It is only
after the effects reveal themselves that they notice the relationship was
unhealthy, but it is normally too late by then. However, there are ways of
escaping such relationships.
Once you find out that
you are in a toxic relationship, the best thing to do is to leave that
relationship immediately before it gets worse. To some, this tends to be too
harsh for them to do it immediately. This is normal since the two of you had
already formed some kind of bond. However, there is still a remedy for such a
scenario.
All that you are
required to do is to take some time off while the two of you re-think things
out. Preferably, this should be at least a month and at most three months. In
this time, there are certain conditions that the two of you should stick to.
They include; not keeping in touch for the whole time, you should reset the
clock once one of you goes against the conditions, write letters to each other
exposing your feelings and present them after the period is over. Make sure
that you meet in a very neutral area. Come to a mutual agreement once you meet
or agree to disagree. Make sure the two of you come to an agreement during the
final meeting. This is the only way out!
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